Communication helps us to learn about ourselves by talking about our likes and dislikes to the people we trust.
Communication helps us to bring out the best in our partner by helping them feel valued and understood.
Some people are visual communicators, others are more kinesthetic, and
some are more auditory.
It is important to understand your partner’s preferred style so that you may communicate on a deeper level that allows the both of you to understand and relate to one another better.
Visual people will say: • “Look, that’s not what I mean” - “I see her point of view” - “Watch him work”
Kinesthetic people will say: • “That feels like the right thing to do” - “I’m so touched by that” - “I could hug you for that”
Auditory people will say:
• “I hear what you mean” - “That sounds good” - “Tell me more”
What kind of communicator are you? What kind of communicator is your partner?
There are also different styles of communication: Passive, Do you withhold your opinions, feelings, and wants? Do you feel uncomfortable speaking your mind?
Aggressive, Do you honestly state your opinions, feelings, and wants, but at the expense of others? Do people seem intimidated by you? Are you demanding, or rude?
and Assertive, Do you state your opinions, feelings, and wants openly, but in a respectful, considerate, tactful way? In most instances, an assertive style works better than a passive or aggressive style