TO PEE OR NOT TO PEE? That is the question! I’ve been asked countless times about squirting. Here’s the deal: it’s awesome!!! The truth is fellas it’s not easy to make her squirt though. It takes technique, the woman has to be very aroused, open to it and relaxed. Is it pee? Yes and no. What you might not know is that pee is actually 95% water. Squirting comes from Skene Glands, which is by some called a female prostate. During arousal, it fills up with a liquid and after intense G-spot stimulation gets squirted out through woman's urethra. This means, that even if squirting isn't pee, a woman will never know if she just squirted or peed. So while the squirting might involve pee if there's a lot of ejaculates, who cares?
Squirting liquids definitely don't taste or smell like pee.
And it helps to remember that the Skene Glands are very small and they cannot create more than 30ml of female ejaculate liquid by themselves. What makes a woman squirt is basically high arousal that fills the Skene Glands with the liquid and then a strong, continuous G-spot stimulation causes her to ejaculate kinda as men would.
Except that woman can do it as many times as she desires.
When she's squirting it will feel like peeing and orgasmic sensations through the body at the same time.
Sometimes the orgasm will happen simultaneously, but sometimes it will happen before, after or won't happen at all. Squirting feels way different than an orgasm, unlike an orgasm it doesn’t always lower after the release. Actually with squirting you get more excited and want to have sex more and more!Trust is key for a woman to unleash the squirt inside! Having said this, trust comes over time, so take the time needed to connect with your woman, I promise your sex life will be amazing. Stay tuned, I will be offering a how to make her squirt class very soon!
The Healing Power Of Positive Touch
I am a Reiki Master Teacher, I have had a private Reiki practice for 20 plus years. I have seen miracles right before my eyes. People from all over the country have come to me for a session, each with the intention of healing for their bodies, minds and spirits. Some of these people have no one other than me who touches them, some don’t have families, some don’t have partners or lovers and some are simply in a touches relationship.
I have witnessed their bodies melt the minute they feel my touch, their energy literally takes a deep breath of relief. The relief of finally being touched in a positive healing way washes over them and for their time with me they are able to experience bliss, relief, joy, healing, pleasure and love. The healing power of touch is incredible. We know touch is essential for babies’ development for their physical, emotional and eventually social health. In fact touch is the first of the five senses to develop. The need for positive touch, the connection, and reassurance it can bring is literally in our DNA. We are wired for touch, from young to old, we need it!
I was getting a pedicure this week and sitting next to me was a 94 year old woman, she was also getting a pedicure and the entire time she kept saying “Ahhhh that feels so good, I feel like I have died and gone to heaven” she even fell asleep in the complete bliss of another's positive touch. If heaven is no more than the bliss of pleasure, count me in!
There is a deep inner need in each of us for non-sexual touch. Our breath even changes when we are touched, we take a deep sigh. Think of the person in your life who gives to that awesome healing hug every time you see them. Holding a hug for 20 seconds brings about a change in brain chemistry. Hugging increases levels of the “love hormone” oxytocin it also reduces the levels of the stress hormone cortisol. Hug more, feel better, live longer. It’s all very scientific, giving and receiving more hugs lowers the amounts of immunity weakening stress, so increasing the amount of embraces you engage in will help protect against infection and stave off colds and flu. Hugging can balance your chakras and meridians. Positive touch wakes up your energy, makes you feel alive. You can start healing by simply holding on to you next hug for a few seconds more!
If you are a person who is not touched often I suggest you receive a Reiki session, or a massage, or even pedicures.
For those of you who have a loving person in your life who you want to connect with on a deeper level and want to heal with, I suggest a chakra connecting hug. Hug your person touching each of your chakras together, you can look into each others eyes or close your eyes whichever feels better. Then breathe deeply, you can even exchange breath with each other. Now feel your chakras begin to warm, feel how your breathing relaxes. Hold this position for a few minutes, visualize your chakras connecting, see the red of your root, the orange of your sacral, the yellow of your solar plexus, the green of your heart, the light blue of your throat, the indigo of your third eye and the violet of your crown all beautiful and bright. If you have had your eyes closed, be sure to open them and look into your partners eyes to seal the energy at the end. This hug can be a prelude to Tantric Love.
So, I am trying to understand men. When I talk to heterosexual men about all of the wonderful masturbation tools I offer, their typical response is "I don't need that, I have my hand". I am always amazed at their un-openness and unwillingness to make their sex lives better! It's interesting however that gay men are much more open and willing to expand their sex lives. In my experience, gay men are so in tune and confident in their sexuality this must be because they have had to endure the criticism of society and have had to honor who they are, this has liberated their souls.
I asked a sexy, beautiful, heterosexual man who is very grounded in his sexuality and uses the sex tools himself the question "why are heterosexual men closed to masturbation tools?". His response made so much sense!
He said "It's not the norm, masturbation is still a taboo, so men hide and jack off with their hand, if they had a toy it would be known they were masturbating. Heterosexual men think vibrators are associated with women, by having a guybrator it indicates you're either gay, bisexual or incapable of getting laid or having a female partner. It really fucks with their ego. Most guys don't talk about masturbation with their friends like women do. We need to make it a norm for men to have guybrators, right now it's not the norm, it's not a universal hip heterosexual guy thing to do. It has to become an accepted thing amongst heterosexual men. In most men's lives there are two factors that dictate what they do, peer pressure or a problem. Peer pressure or a problem dictate them trying new things, peer pressure and problems also prevent them from being who they are. Once heterosexual men discover guybrators are a self pleasure tool and it's the norm they will use them. Most men watch porn to please themselves, why not have a personal tool to help enhance your self pleasure. Men are taking pills to help them be harder and last longer in bed and that's only because it became acceptable and the cool thing to do, it was through peer pressure that this happened because it enhanced their male ego, it made them better. At one point having a beard was not the cool thing to wear, until men started to see athletes like LeBron James and James Harden wearing full beards. Men realized women found full beards attractive and so, it became the norm. Most men know their woman has a vibrator, or several and that's the norm for women, men need toys to be their norm as well. Men need to put their egos aside and get in touch with their sexuality, this in turn will make them better lovers and being good in bed is a huge ego stroke for men."
Like I said, his response makes so much sense! Let's make self pleasure tools as normal as the beard!
ORAL TIPS FOR THE CLIT!
•A woman is more sensitive so begin with less
•Kiss and lick the inside of her thighs to create sexual anticipation
•Explore the entire outside of the vagina with circular tongue motions
•Suck on her labia (vaginal lips) gently
•Use long lapping motions with your tongue from her vaginal opening to her clitoris
•Flick your tongue over her clitoris, alternating from up and down and side to side
•Slip one or two fingers inside her vagina as you gently lick her clitoris
•Make humming sounds with your lips so they vibrate the clitoris
•When she is on the verge of orgasm, make your lips into an O and take her clitoris in your mouth sucking gently •Don’t change the rhythm of your motion when she is climaxing !